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Old 07-12-2010, 12:11 AM   #1
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I am out of ideas and nothing seems to work. My older boys did not present me with this problem. My 3 younger boys are 9,7,and 6. They cannot sit next to each other on the couch, in the car, at the table, anywhere with out pinching, punching, hitting, or kicking each other.

Every car trip is HORRIBLE . While I am trying to deal with one of them, the others will start in on each other. I do not recall doing anything differently with the younger children, I do not know why they think this is ok behavior.

I am at a loss and it is driving the rest of us crazy. I have to make sure they are physically in other parts of the house from each other before I can even go in the bathroom. The rest of us do not get to go anywhere fun or special because I know these 3 will start something embarrassing. I have NO sitter that will take them so we can do something with the older kids. Their before school sitter barely made it to the end of the school year and she only had them for 1/2 hour before the bus came. Even my parents wont take the younger 3.
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Between the three of them does one seem to be the instigator moreso than the other two? What are their personalities like? Are any more sensitive than the others? Are 2 of them together just as bad as all 3?

How old are your older 2?
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I am not saying try this.. but my brother and I were like this with each other..

My father would say.. OK you want to fight, then well do it the right way. He made us get out of the car and told us to duke it out right now! my brother and I would look at each other oddly and then we would both agree we didnt want to fiight each other, so we stopped and agreed to behave..

My mom would say that if we had enough time to pick on each other then we didnt have enough to do and would line up chores for us all day.. We quickly learned that it was easier on us to just get along.. (less chores.. .. )

and the third... Mom would make us kiss and hug each other.. YUCK! that always worked..
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I have 3 boys and they all have their moments of being little excrement disturbers. Somedays they seem to feed off each other and take turns doing the pinching, hitting etc. If it seems it's all 3 creating the trouble equally, they all get punished. This may be in the form of being sent to their rooms, denied tv, games or whatever. It also means extra chores. At first it doesn't stop the behaviours, but it does start to establish little by little that I am in charge, not them. Then they see that any warnings I make are followed up. I must say that while they are far from perfect they now understand they will see consequences from me for poor behaviour, it has taken some time though, esp since when they are with their mother, anything goes.
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I am not saying try this.. but my brother and I were like this with each other..

My father would say.. OK you want to fight, then well do it the right way. He made us get out of the car and told us to duke it out right now! my brother and I would look at each other oddly and then we would both agree we didnt want to fiight each other, so we stopped and agreed to behave..

My mom would say that if we had enough time to pick on each other then we didnt have enough to do and would line up chores for us all day.. We quickly learned that it was easier on us to just get along.. (less chores.. .. )

and the third... Mom would make us kiss and hug each other.. YUCK! that always worked..

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