Adopting with kids

[Chowtime]

What are your opinions about adopting when you have biological children already? Does anyone have any experience with this? Do they have anything against each other?

[smshybug]

Welcome to the site. Hope you find what you are looking for here.

Some family friends of ours have 2 biological children who are in their teen years and they adopted two babies from China within the past 4 years. All of their children are well . . . children . . . they have the same arguments and bickering that all biological or all adopted children would have.

As far as I can see . . . they are a normal functioning family. I think it depends on how you treat all your children and how you raise them.

[My 3 boys]

I personally think it's a great idea. As a matter of fact I fully intend to adopt my next child, if and when I decide I'm ready for another. I have three wonderful little boys and would love to add a little girl to the mix. The only way I can insure that will happen is to adopt and honestly there are so many children out there that need parents that it's the only thing I can do! I think that it's possible for adopted children to feel as much a part of the family as biological children as long as the parents ensure that's how they raise everyone. I have a cousin who was adopted as an infant and he has always been part of us, we don't see him any differently and he doesn't see himself any differently. I use my cousin as an example b/c we have a large extended family and are all more like brothers/sisters than cousins. I think it's an awesome idea and I take my hat off to anyone who chooses to adopt!

[cailin]

i've never really thought about adopting. however while at the park the other day with my daughter, this cute litte thing came running up to me with her arms out stretched wanting me to pick her up. i couldn't resist..i picked her up (and kissed her..). i put her back down and she wanted up again.... i was in love . (she wouldn't even go to my friend). i handed her back to her father and she didn't want to go back to him... i swear i really wanted to keep her... now that experience seriously had me considering adoption.

[lilypotter]

i agree with smshybug. When you adopt a child, we should make clear to your biological child about the coming new member and make them understand.
And i appreciate the idea of adopting a child. Good.

[Bluemoon]

Older thread, but my 2 cts anyway...I agree that it's all about how the group is raised. Yes, kids will be kids, and at some point one may bring up the issue in a hurtful way, but that's when the positive lessons about family get reinforced...hopefully. I have often thought about taking in a (not like before, not from family) foster child...maybe adopting. I so much wanted Ethan to have a sibling. But, I am too scared. If it turns out to be too much for me, the children would get hurt.

[catherinebell]

While it has been known to be an old practice during the ancient times, child adoption has remained to be increasingly popular even in the present time. Not only has the idea of adopting appealed to parents who are not able to bear children, it has also been a household decision for families with their own biological children.

[absfins]

My parents adopted a child when we were all pretty much grown. It has worked out very well for them and for her. For whatever reason, raising us 4 kids didn't kill their desire to raise more kids so they were foster parents until they adopted Katie.

[jeffmail55]

There is much good to grow in parenthood throughout, it gives one much love on which a true image of God- likeness is developed to maturity.We ought to grow in to the likeness of him who loves us continually